Dear Friends in Christ,
I am excited to share with you the latest news from the vocation office. September is the month when our the seminarians have all returned to seminary. This month, we are pleased to introduce our five new seminarians to you.
It is also around this time each year that the National Conference of Diocesan Vocation Directors holds its annual convention, which this year was moved to a virtual conference. In the two years I have attended, I have found it to be immensely helpful. Talks vary each year, covering everything from improving social media presence to running a summer camp for high school students, from helping seminarians who have major student loans from college prepare to enter seminary. The big topic this year, as it was last year, was the new edition of the Program of Priestly Formation, which will update guidelines for seminaries in the formation of priests The convention is always wrapped in prayer, as each day begins with a period of prayer and reflection sponsored by the Institute of Priestly Formation. When we meet in person, members of the Serra Club of that diocese are in Eucharistic adoration the entire time the convention meets.
One of the major themes that I sensed coming through in a number of talks, presentations, and meditations was the topic of spiritual fatherhood. The temptation in our time is to see priests as business managers, with the parish as a small business he runs. In areas affected by a shortage of priestly vocations, the priest might be turned into a sacramental functionary, running from one small parish to another in a cluster, doing a sacrament here and then a sacrament there. Or maybe the priest is turned into the local religious education expert, speaking to this class in the school, then the confirmation class on Sunday, then the parents at baptism prep, then the couples at marriage prep, and it goes on and on. It would be possible to take any one thing a priest does and treat that as his defining characteristic. Priesthood is all of this, but yet none of that captures it fully.
Since becoming vocation director, people also ask me from time to time what it is like to be a priest whose task now is mostly administrative. This is news to me about what I do, as if the men I work with who are in formation or who are discerning are not individual and unique people with spiritual needs, concerns, questions, and talents. In fact, a priest is not defined by what he does but by who he is. When a young high school student first contacts my office and asks, "I think I might be called, but what exactly does a priest do all day?" the temptation is to say, "That cannot be answered easily because every day is so different." In fact, the answer is really rather simple.
The line spoken by Jesus, “I have called you friends” is spoken to the first priests, the Apostles. The priest is, to use a Biblical image, the friend of the Bridegroom. This was Augustine’s preferred image for the priest, and one Pope Benedict used often. In the same way that the Church uses the image “bride of Christ” for the religious sister, it is friend of the bridegroom that is used for the priest. The opening chant we sang for the common of religious sisters in seminary was, “Come, bride of Christ, receive the everlasting crown that the Lord has prepared for you.” Ever sister, whether a teacher, a contemplative, a social worker, or a secretary, is a bride of Christ. That is the core. Likewise, the priest’s core identity (who he is, not what he does) is friend of the Bridegroom, who has been placed in charge of his Master's household until he returns. In fact, at Mass when we celebrate the feast day of a pastor, the Communion antiphon is, "This is the steward, faithful and prudent, whom the Lord set over his household, to give them their allowance of food at the proper time." When asked, "Father, what does a priest do all day," I could reply, "Care for the people of God." That sums it up. Somedays that means funerals. Somedays it means weddings. Somedays it means shooting hoops with the youth group. Somedays it means getting estimates on a new roof. Somedays it means teaching seven year olds preparing for first Holy Communion. Somedays it means teachings men studying to be priests.
For all the people of God, what this means is that the the priest is a spiritual father. Whatever the spiritual needs of those entrusted to his care, he shows them the love of the Father. In order to be a good father, he has to do all the things Jesus asks him to do. In order to be a father, the priest must know himself as loved by the one Father of all so that he can communicate this love to others. This means that a priest must be firm yet gentle, to speak challenging truths while still communicating that the person is of infinite value and loved.
This identity cuts across every type of priesthood, whether it is the Benedictine monk or the Dominican friar or the diocesan priest. Sometimes men remark to me, "I am thinking of being a monk because I am not interested in the business side of parish life." That might be a sign that he is not called to diocesan priesthood, but what if he, as a monk, becomes the one in the community whose job is to be financially responsible for the abbey? It seems just as likely that man is precisely called to be a diocesan priest and that the financial things will be a small cross for him. Instead, I would ask him, "God does not call a man to a religious order to run away from a parish, but He places within the man the true charism of the order. What is drawing you?" The real question is, "How does God want to expand your heart to love, and how does he want you to be a father?" We run towards something, not away from it.
Every single man who walks into my office, either as a seminarian or someone in only the initial stages of inquiry, has a history, has struggles, has sins. Part of my work of spiritual accompaniment is to help the man understand God's love for him and help him realize how it is that God is inviting him to respond, either as a priest or in some other way. A vocation director who fails to realize his primary identity is as friend of the Bridegroom and his task is that of spiritual father, who sees only the bills to be paid and the evaluations and applications to be read, without seeing the man behind that evaluation, behind that application, has lost perspective.
I look forward to sharing with you more reflections from this year's conference and the more "practical" talks in future issues.
May God Bless you.
Sincerely,
Father Donato Infante
Vocation Director
Diocese of Worcester
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